Episode Summary:
In this heartwarming and enlightening episode of Boomer Banter, host Wendy Green and her guest, Stacey Colino delve into the profound bond between humans and dogs, exploring the manifold ways these loyal companions enrich our lives. Dive into the science behind the human-canine connection, the emotional and physical benefits of having a dog, and hear firsthand stories that showcase their extraordinary abilities. Whether you’re a seasoned dog owner or considering adding a furry friend to your family, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice for creating a harmonious relationship with your pet.
Episode Description:
The emotional connection between humans and dogs is not just anecdotal; it is backed by science and shared experiences. Wendy Green opens the podcast with personal stories of her beloved dog Curly, illustrating how dogs become integral members of the family. The dialogue with Stacy Colino expands on the psychological and social benefits of dog ownership, particularly for older adults who may face loneliness and health challenges.
Colino points out that dogs serve as social catalysts, creating opportunities for conversation and interaction within communities. The episode also touches on the importance of understanding a dog’s needs, including considerations for age, breed, and energy levels when choosing a companion. The discussion further explores the health benefits associated with dog ownership, such as increased physical activity and emotional support during difficult times.
Listeners gain valuable insights into the responsibilities and joys of having a dog, as well as practical tips for ensuring a successful and fulfilling relationship with their canine friends. This episode serves as a heartfelt reminder of the unconditional love and companionship that dogs offer, making them cherished members of our families.
Takeaways:
- The bond between humans and dogs is supported by science, enhancing emotional connections.
- Dogs can detect medical issues in their owners through their keen sense of smell.
- Owning a dog can promote physical activity, which is essential for health as we age.
- Understanding a dog’s personality and energy level is crucial before adoption for older adults.
- Dogs provide emotional support and companionship, especially beneficial for seniors facing loneliness.
- Training dogs effectively requires understanding their behavior, and using positive reinforcement methods.
Links referenced in this episode:
- Become a member of the Boomer Believers
- Support the Boomer Banter Walk to End Alzheimer’s team
- American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals for good articles on pet care.
- American Kennel Club for great info about different breeds and expert advice on dog training, dog nutrition, and other aspects of dog care
- Marc Bekoff, Ph.D, writes an interesting blog on animal emotions for Psychology
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Transcript
People have some very specific ideas about their dogs.
Wendy Green:Some people want them to be indoor pets, some people think they should be outdoor pets.
Wendy Green:Some people prefer big dogs, some people like little dogs.
Wendy Green:Sometimes there's a discussion or argument about do dogs really have feelings?
Wendy Green:Do we anthropomorphize them?
Wendy Green:So we're gonna dig into all of that.
Wendy Green:But when I was growing up, we had an amazing dog.
Wendy Green:And I'm sure most dog owners will tell you their dog is amazing.
Wendy Green:So our dog was a rescue.
Wendy Green:He looked like a shaggy sheep dog.
Wendy Green:They told us he was.
Wendy Green:Probably had a lot of puli in him.
Wendy Green:I had never heard of that kind of dog before.
Wendy Green:And we named him Curly.
Wendy Green:And Curly loved us so much.
Wendy Green:And we loved him so much.
Wendy Green:He was really a member of the family and he used to love to go on bike rides.
Wendy Green:When my dad would ride his bike, he would run along.
Wendy Green:He loved playing in the lake with us.
Wendy Green:He even let us play tackle football with him.
Wendy Green:Poor puppy.
Wendy Green:But he was so, so special.
Wendy Green:And he definitely had feelings.
Wendy Green:I am in that camp.
Wendy Green:Dogs have feelings.
Wendy Green:He would be thrilled to see us.
Wendy Green:He would feel like such remorse if we scolded him.
Wendy Green:So it was very obvious to to us that he had feelings.
Wendy Green:Now I have a cat, Pepper, that I am very connected to.
Wendy Green:She and I became even closer during the pandemic and I love her immensely.
Wendy Green:And I know that she loves me, but not in the same way that Curly loved us.
Wendy Green:Right.
Wendy Green:So I know that when Pepper dies, I'm going to be devastated, and I hope that's many years off.
Wendy Green:She's only eight.
Wendy Green:But the bond with a cat is not the same as the bond with the dog.
Wendy Green:So please don't tell Pepper this though.
Wendy Green:Don't tell her I said this.
Wendy Green:So all this month we've been exploring relationships and their importance as we age.
Wendy Green:And in today's episode, we're going to talk about the bond between humans and their dogs.
Wendy Green:There is science behind why the connection is so strong, and we'll explore that.
Wendy Green:We will also learn about how dogs have been important health companions for their owners.
Wendy Green:And we're going to uncover some of the ways a dog can be an important companion for us as we age and what we need to think about to be successful dog owners and dog lovers.
Wendy Green:Welcome to Boomer Banter, the podcast where we have real talk about aging.
Wendy Green:Well, my name is Wendy Green and I am your host and my guest today is Stacy Colino.
Wendy Green:Stacy is an award winning writer specializing in science, health and psychological issues.
Wendy Green:Her work has appeared in the Washington Post Health and wellness sections and in dozens of national magazines, including Prevention magazine, I just found out today.
Wendy Green:She is the co author of numerous books, including the Purest Bond, Understanding the Human Canine Connection, which is the book we're going to base this conversation on today and the book that drew me to her.
Wendy Green:Stacy grew up with dogs.
Wendy Green:First she had Roscoe, who was a black poodle that looked more like a shaggy sheep dog.
Wendy Green:Then she had Bowser, a Pooley, which is what they told us Curly was probably most likely.
Wendy Green:And during Stacy's adult life she has had three dogs, all rescues.
Wendy Green:Stacy went to Oberlin College in Ohio for her undergraduate work and then graduate school in journalism at Northwestern.
Wendy Green:She has two grown sons and a shepherd lab mixed named Sadie.
Wendy Green:And before I bring Stacy on, I want to INV invite you to join the Boomer Banter Community.
Wendy Green:In the Boomer Banter community of men and women, we are learning together and thriving as we age.
Wendy Green:Well, if you're yearning for a sense of camaraderie, if you're looking for opportunities for personal growth and development, or if you want to gain knowledge and support for aging, well, you will want to be part of the Boomer Believers community.
Wendy Green:Twice a month we get together virtually the second Tuesday of the month.
Wendy Green:We talk about some of the challenges we face as we age.
Wendy Green:On the fourth Tuesday of the month, we meet in a virtual session with one of our guests from that month, and community members have the opportunity to interact, live and ask all the questions they want to of that guest.
Wendy Green:In addition, you will receive a takeaway summary from each meeting with ideas that you can implement, and you may also receive some material before the gathering to help you prepare for the meeting.
Wendy Green:to buymeacoffee.com heyboomer:Wendy Green:So join me in welcoming Stacy Colino to the Boomer Banter.
Wendy Green:Hi Stacy.
Stacy Colino:Hi Wendy.
Stacy Colino:Thanks for having me.
Wendy Green:I'm so glad that you were able to make this work in your schedule.
Wendy Green:So I wanted to start with some of the sayings that we hear about our relationship with dogs.
Wendy Green:Things like dogs are man's best friend or woman's, or be the person your dog thinks you are or Happiness is a warm puppy.
Wendy Green:So what's behind the emotional connection we develop with our dogs?
Stacy Colino:Well, it's very real.
Stacy Colino:I'll start with that.
Stacy Colino:And it happens on multiple levels.
Stacy Colino:Psychologically, socially, physically, biologically.
Stacy Colino:Something that people don't know is that when you look into your beloved dog's eyes or sit on the floor and pet them, you both experience a surge of oxytocin, which is often called the love hormone or the bonding hormone.
Stacy Colino:It's what's released when mothers nurse their babies or when couples hug each other.
Stacy Colino:And you and your dog both get that, and it creates this warm, fuzzy feeling inside you, but it also facilitates the bond between you.
Stacy Colino:So it really is pretty deep.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:I read a report by the National Library of Medicine, and they noted that 43% of adults aged 60 and older reported feeling lonely at times.
Wendy Green:In your book the Purest Bond, you talk about the social capital that dogs can provide.
Wendy Green:What do you mean by that, Stacy?
Stacy Colino:Well, in the community, dogs serve as a social facilitator, if you will.
Stacy Colino:People often know dogs names in the neighborhood, and they may not know the owner's names.
Stacy Colino:I know that that's true in my case.
Stacy Colino:But it brings people together conversationally.
Stacy Colino:You know, it's an immediate and always ready conversation point.
Stacy Colino:Somebody can ask about your dog, what breed it is, what, what its name is, how long you've had it, and all this, and all of a sudden you strike up a conversation and a connection.
Stacy Colino:It creates community cohesion.
Stacy Colino:There have even been some studies that have found that communities that have a lot of dogs have lower crime rates because it's not that every household has a dog and the dog barks and scares away, you know, a burglar.
Stacy Colino:It's that it just makes it less appealing for criminals to come to that neighborhood because there is a sense of community and sort of a community watch element going on.
Stacy Colino:So that's pretty interesting.
Stacy Colino:And people meet each other and become friends through their dogs.
Stacy Colino:I just met some neighbors yesterday who have probably lived down the street from me for 20 years, but I didn't know them.
Stacy Colino:And they had their little dog out in front, and he came up to me and wanted me to pet him, and we started talking.
Stacy Colino:And then I gave them a copy of the book because just paperback, we just hit it off over dogs and, you know, it's a.
Stacy Colino:It's a common interest.
Stacy Colino:So whether you have a dog or not, if you do have a dog, it's obviously more of a common interest.
Stacy Colino:But even if you like a dog, if you don't have one, there's something to talk about and something to connect you.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:And you see people take their dogs everywhere, you know, you see, Right, Yep.
Wendy Green:So is that another social connection?
Wendy Green:Like you take your dog to the restaurant, you take your dog to the park or the dog park or.
Wendy Green:I mean, absolutely.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Stacy Colino:Yesterday I went to my local community center to vote and there were a bunch of people in there who had their dogs with them.
Stacy Colino:So dogs are now accompanying people to vote.
Wendy Green:Yeah, I think more, more establishments are becoming dog friendly.
Stacy Colino:Yes, I think that's true.
Stacy Colino:Maybe not so much inside, but certainly like on their patios and that kind of thing.
Wendy Green:So what do people have to be cautious of though?
Wendy Green:I mean, some dogs are not as welcoming of a stranger reaching out to them as other dogs.
Stacy Colino:That's absolutely true.
Stacy Colino:I think it's important to know your dog and know how your dog is going to respond in these situations.
Stacy Colino:And some dogs may be perfectly friendly to other people, but if there's another dog in that setting, they might get all ratcheted up and create commotion and chaos that's not wanted.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:So you have to be the one that keeps a watch on that if somebody's coming up to you or to your dog.
Stacy Colino:Absolutely, yeah.
Wendy Green:To be able to say, yeah, that's probably good, thank you for liking my.
Stacy Colino:Dog, but maybe not give my dog some space, please.
Wendy Green:Also in your book, Stacy, you say that dog ownership is referred to in the medical literature as a public health interest because it has the potential to promote health boosting physical activity.
Wendy Green:So public health interest, what does that mean, in your opinion?
Stacy Colino:So as most of us realize most people are not getting the level of physical activity or exercise that the Surgeon General and the government is telling us that we should.
Stacy Colino:And the idea behind that public health recommendation is that if you have a dog, even if you don't do hardcore exercise, you need to take your dog for walks multiple times a day and get out and about.
Stacy Colino:And that alone increases the level of physical activity, which is beneficial for both of you in terms of disease prevention, weight control, mood boosting benefits, and so on.
Stacy Colino:And so there's sort of no physical downside or health related downside there.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:So getting out and moving around, but.
Wendy Green:And here I'm going to play the devil's advocate to that.
Stacy Colino:Okay.
Wendy Green:With a cat, I don't have to go out when the weather is crappy and cold and rainy and snowy.
Wendy Green:And so how do you, how do you feel good about getting out when the weather's so bad?
Stacy Colino:Well, it's interesting.
Stacy Colino:Studies have actually found that a lot of people feel good about it because they're doing it for this creature they love.
Stacy Colino:And so it's not for them, but they get sort of a side benefit, a collateral Benefit from it.
Stacy Colino:But they're doing it out of love for their beloved furry friend.
Stacy Colino:That's a good thing.
Stacy Colino:And you know what?
Stacy Colino:Let's face it, Wendy.
Stacy Colino:Some dogs, including my own, if it's pouring rain outside, she's not interested in going for a long walk.
Stacy Colino:She'll go for a block, turn around and come home, do her business, and we're done.
Stacy Colino:And that's fine with me.
Wendy Green:Yeah, that would be fine with me, too.
Wendy Green:I know.
Wendy Green:Thank you, mom, for getting me out, but that's enough.
Wendy Green:So with the indoor outdoor thing, do you have some thoughts about, you know, people that say dogs should only be kept outdoors as opposed to people that want to keep their dogs indoors?
Stacy Colino:I actually don't know anybody who has that philosophy.
Stacy Colino:So, I mean, maybe out in the country there are people.
Stacy Colino:Yeah, yeah.
Wendy Green:And hunting dogs and things.
Stacy Colino:True.
Wendy Green:Yeah, true.
Stacy Colino:Personally, I couldn't do it.
Wendy Green:I think you have to have special housing if you're going to do it responsibly.
Stacy Colino:Definitely.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:I want to take a brief moment here to pause and talk about my walk to and Alzheimer's team.
Wendy Green:We are walking to try to make a difference in the care that Alzheimer's patients receive and that the Alzheimer's caregivers receive.
Wendy Green:And so we have set a goal to raise $5,000 for our walk to End Alzheimer's team, the Boomer Banter team.
Wendy Green:And every year we sponsor a team.
Wendy Green:And if you would like to help end this horrible disease and help people that have it, we would greatly appreciate your support.
Wendy Green:You can make a donation to our Walk to ends alzheimer's team@act.alz.org goto heyboomer and I will include that in the show.
Wendy Green:Notes back to Stacy Colino, who is our guest today.
Wendy Green:And I want to talk to you, Stacy, about some of the amazing stories about some of the dogs that you've included in your book.
Wendy Green:Like some of the stories of dogs recognizing an illness or an emergency in their owner even before sometimes the owner even knew there was a problem.
Stacy Colino:Yeah, it's really pretty amazing.
Stacy Colino:And a big part of that comes from the fact that dogs are so attentive to us that they notice little subtle changes, Changes in us before we might.
Stacy Colino:They're very attentive to us in terms of their hearing, but even more so in terms of their sense of smell.
Stacy Colino:A dog's sense of smell is exponentially more keen.
Stacy Colino:Keener than a human's is.
Stacy Colino:I actually had to look this up because I don't remember it off the top of my head.
Stacy Colino:But dogs have 200 million to 1 billion olfactory receptors in their nasal cavities, depending on the breed, compared to approximately 6 million in people.
Stacy Colino:They also have a particular olfactory organ called Jacob's organ, that we don't have.
Stacy Colino:But as a result of these anatomical differences, scientists estimate that dogs can smell 10,000 to 100,000 times better than people can.
Stacy Colino:So what this means in terms of detecting diseases is they can detect changes in our exhalations from our body, compounds that come out in our breath or body odor.
Stacy Colino:Even if it's not like a really obvious odor, it's a change in our body smell.
Stacy Colino:So they can be attuned to all these chemical changes that we experience that we wouldn't notice or that our other family members wouldn't notice.
Stacy Colino:And sometimes that can alert them to signs of a disease or signs of a disease flare up.
Wendy Green:So tell me about an example where that has happened.
Stacy Colino:So there was one story that we got from somebody who was a grandmother who would take care of her granddog sometimes, and the dog was just obsessed with a particular area on one of her feet, and she couldn't figure out what was going on with this.
Stacy Colino:And so.
Stacy Colino:And the dog would sort of like touch it and smell it and lick it and do all these different things.
Stacy Colino:So finally she went to the doctor and found out that she had skin cancer.
Wendy Green:In that?
Stacy Colino:Yes, on that area on her foot.
Stacy Colino:Wow, that's pretty amazing.
Stacy Colino:There are other stories about dogs being able to detect seizures and people who have epilepsy before they happen.
Stacy Colino:And those trained dogs can keep the person safe by helping them get down on the floor and just keeping them steady so that they don't bump into anything and hurt themselves.
Stacy Colino:There was a story from somebody that my co author knew about how his dog, who was normally very mild mannered and pretty mellow, was jumping on him during the night and kind of like pulsing on his chest, and he couldn't figure out what the heck was going on.
Stacy Colino:There's a guy in his 60s, and he would was just like thinking the dog was being a pest and shooing it away at first.
Stacy Colino:But this happened like multiple times over the span of seven to ten days.
Stacy Colino:And finally he decided to go to the doctor and have it checked out.
Stacy Colino:And it turned out he was having heart problems.
Stacy Colino:And in the middle of a stress test at the doctor, he had a heart attack and had to be airlifted to a hospital.
Stacy Colino:So the dog was probably detecting changes in the guy's breathing or maybe he had very bad sleep apnea.
Stacy Colino:And he was pausing in his breathing, and he didn't realize it, but the dog did.
Stacy Colino:So it was almost like the dog was trying to perform doggy cpr.
Wendy Green:Yeah, sounds like that.
Wendy Green:Wow.
Wendy Green:So, fortunately, those people knew enough to say, wow, the dog is kind of alerting me to something.
Wendy Green:I better check this out.
Stacy Colino:Exactly.
Wendy Green:Huh.
Wendy Green:Now, there's also some stories in your book about people that have been injured and how the dogs have helped them with their recovery besides just being, you know, that loving companion.
Wendy Green:Can you tell me about some of that?
Stacy Colino:Well, it happens on different levels.
Stacy Colino:So there are some studies that have found that people who have had heart attacks who go for cardiac rehab, those people tend to do better if they have a dog, and it's not just because they might get more exercise in their spare time.
Stacy Colino:There's just some correlation there.
Stacy Colino:In addition, as we talked about before, dogs, having a dog can be a motivator for getting up and out when you don't feel like it.
Stacy Colino:And so there were some people who had pretty bad injuries from, like, a car accident or just various causes who were just, like, not feeling good through the rehab process or through physical therapy.
Stacy Colino:But again, the MO became, I'm going to do this for my dog.
Stacy Colino:And that's what got them off the couch and outside and moving, and then they benefited.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:I think there was one where you said the person had a very serious injury, was very depressed, and the dog helped them through some of the rehab, and then they had another serious injury.
Stacy Colino:Yeah.
Wendy Green:And the dog, again, helped them through that rehab.
Wendy Green:But I think you also have to think about who's going to take care of your dog if you're not there.
Wendy Green:Like, if you've been injured in rehab.
Stacy Colino:Absolutely.
Stacy Colino:Yeah.
Stacy Colino:You need a contingency plan.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:So, I mean, if you live alone, what are.
Wendy Green:What are some of your thoughts about that?
Wendy Green:Do you take them?
Wendy Green:Well, I.
Wendy Green:I guess I'm also thinking, Stacy, you know, like, so many people then just give the dog back to the pound or to.
Stacy Colino:Right.
Wendy Green:And that.
Wendy Green:I mean, these are emotional, connected beings.
Wendy Green:That's got to be hard on the dog.
Stacy Colino:Yeah.
Stacy Colino:That's how we got our current dog, Sadie.
Stacy Colino:She was with a family in West Virginia, and we got her when she was either 5 or 6 years old.
Stacy Colino:We're not 100.
Stacy Colino:Sure.
Stacy Colino:And they gave her to their local pound.
Stacy Colino:And the reason they wrote on the form was moving.
Stacy Colino:And I was so outraged.
Stacy Colino:I was like, if you love this dog, could you really not have found another home for the dog?
Stacy Colino:I mean, just to surrender it to the pound.
Stacy Colino:But along those lines, I think that if you have a dog, it's a really good idea to talk to friends or family members.
Stacy Colino:Like if something happens to me, would you be willing to take my dog and just have like a plan B or a plan C?
Wendy Green:I think that's so important.
Wendy Green:So let's talk about the benefits of having a dog as an older person.
Stacy Colino:Well, some of the research has found that it basically gives people various sort of organizational or structural elements to their lives.
Stacy Colino:So for some people it might be an organizing principle for their schedules.
Stacy Colino:Like the dog gets them up at a certain time of day and then there's breakfast and then a walk and times to go out, to go potty or just to go out for walks.
Stacy Colino:And it's a, it gives a schedule and a structure to the, to their day.
Stacy Colino:For others, it's a great source of companionship and ready affection and also playtime.
Stacy Colino:I mean, having a dog is joyful.
Stacy Colino:We all need that, I think, at every age.
Stacy Colino:But when you get older and if you retire, you may not have as many sources for that joy and that pleasure.
Stacy Colino:And a dog can give it.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:I'm seeing some wonderful comments since we are live for this.
Wendy Green:Talking about the unconditional love being so real and genuine.
Stacy Colino:Yep.
Wendy Green:Feeling happy when you're looking at a.
Stacy Colino:Dog'S face, when your dog is smiling in your face, it's impossible to feel bad.
Wendy Green:And they do smile, don't they?
Stacy Colino:They do.
Stacy Colino:My girl is a big smiler and I can't not smile when I look at her smiling.
Wendy Green:And they feel bad when they know they've done something wrong too, don't they?
Stacy Colino:Yeah.
Wendy Green:And then I remember when with Curly, I used to feel so sad if they, if, if Curly got punished and she would kind of sulk away.
Wendy Green:I'm like, oh, poor baby.
Stacy Colino:Yeah, they want to please us.
Wendy Green:They do want to please us.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:So it.
Wendy Green:As an older person, if I'm thinking about getting a dog, don't tell Pepper.
Wendy Green:If I'm.
Wendy Green:I know, right?
Wendy Green:If I'm thinking about getting a dog, what are the things I need to consider?
Wendy Green:Like big dog, small dog, old dog, young dog, you know, those kinds of things.
Stacy Colino:Definitely those elements.
Stacy Colino:And also I would say personality and energy level.
Stacy Colino:If you don't want to take multiple walks a day, don't get a high energy dog.
Wendy Green:You don't get a Jack Russell.
Stacy Colino:Yeah.
Stacy Colino:I mean, I have some friends who are in their 60s who have relatively new dogs and their dogs have so much energy, they take them on multiple 2 to 5 mile walks per day.
Wendy Green:Wow.
Stacy Colino:You need to sort of know that going in like that this is something your dog might need because otherwise the dog is kind of bouncing off the walls with too much energy and misbehaves.
Stacy Colino:That's when trouble comes in.
Stacy Colino:So you have to know what you're getting into.
Stacy Colino:I also know people who have ended up adopting a dog, a puppy that was surrendered by.
Stacy Colino:I know two people that have had this experience surrendered by older couples.
Stacy Colino:And by older couples, I mean people in their 80s who thought, oh, let's get a puppy.
Stacy Colino:It'll be really fun.
Stacy Colino:It'll bring some, like, vibrancy and excitement into our home and that kind of thing.
Stacy Colino:Oh, they just did not think that through because there was a lot of training to do for the puppy.
Stacy Colino:You know, in terms of behavior, in terms of house training, and also just the energy level.
Stacy Colino:It was just sheer chaos.
Stacy Colino:And in both cases, I think the couples kept the puppy for a maximum of two weeks.
Wendy Green:Oh, gosh.
Stacy Colino:Yeah.
Stacy Colino:So it, you know, you really have to think through what you're getting into.
Stacy Colino:So having said that, like, for older people, you may want to consider, if you want a dog, maybe get an older dog.
Stacy Colino:You know, there are so many dogs at shelters and rescue organizations who have been surrendered for one reason or another.
Stacy Colino:And they're good dogs.
Stacy Colino:I mean, we got Sadie, as I said, when she was five or six years old, because people were moving.
Stacy Colino:And she has just been the best dog, loves everybody in the family.
Stacy Colino:She has not touched wood, had ace.
Stacy Colino:Well, there she is.
Stacy Colino:She's not had.
Stacy Colino:Hi, Sadie.
Stacy Colino:Had a single accident in our house in four years.
Stacy Colino:She has not destroyed anything.
Stacy Colino:She is a really good dog and pretty low maintenance.
Wendy Green:And so did you have to do any special training with her?
Stacy Colino:No, I mean, we.
Stacy Colino:She wasn't used to walking on a leash, probably because she grew up in West Virginia, maybe on a farm.
Stacy Colino:So we had to do some work with her in terms of walking well on a leash, but otherwise, no.
Wendy Green:Okay.
Wendy Green:And, and, and what about, you know, I'm seeing some comments about the breeds, but what about the care and feeding of a dog and the maintenance of a dog?
Wendy Green:You know, as an older person, what do you need to think about there?
Wendy Green:I can't imagine my mother sticking a dog in the bathtub.
Stacy Colino:Right.
Stacy Colino:Yeah.
Stacy Colino:So that's an important point.
Stacy Colino:You need to think about, like, how often this dog will need to be bathed, what kind of shedding the dog is going to do, like, what kind of care and maintenance you'll need for that.
Stacy Colino:So if you don't want to do a lot of dog bathing, maybe a lab is a good thing to do.
Stacy Colino:A shorter haired dog and you know, it's good to brush them.
Stacy Colino:But I don't bathe Sadie very often and it's not because I'm a bad dog mom, she just doesn't need it.
Stacy Colino:So I'll brush her, I'll brush her teeth, but you know, just sort of have a sense of what's going to be required.
Stacy Colino:And there's some good resources that I know you're going to share later where you can find that, like the American Kennel Club and the aspca, they have all these different blogs about dog breeds and their traits and what's required of their care and that kind of thing.
Stacy Colino:And it would be good to do a little research and reading before you go looking at a dog.
Wendy Green:Yeah, because I think as you're saying, you know, you have to know, you have to know your own abilities.
Wendy Green:Right.
Wendy Green:Like do you get a big 60 pound dog?
Wendy Green:Are you going to be able to walk that dog on a leash?
Wendy Green:Are you going to have to do special training to be able to do that?
Wendy Green:Do you need special food?
Wendy Green:How often do they want to eat?
Wendy Green:You know, all of these things you need to think about.
Stacy Colino:Yeah.
Stacy Colino:So one of the things that was important to me, it's always been important to me with all three dogs is I want to be able to pick up my dog if I need to.
Stacy Colino:And so all of our dogs have been between 50 and 60 pounds and I can pick them up and put them in the car if they're injured or, you know, that kind of thing.
Stacy Colino:I can't carry them for blocks but I can pick them up and that's important.
Stacy Colino:So you know, think about things like that.
Stacy Colino:And of course ahead of time you need to think about how you're going to care for this dog in your home where they're going to sleep.
Stacy Colino:Financially, dogs are expensive.
Stacy Colino:You have to consider their vet care, their food, you know, everything.
Stacy Colino:And so you'll want to sort of have a sense of what that's going to cost you going in.
Wendy Green:Oh, that's a good point.
Wendy Green:I know my kids have spent a fortune on like hip replacements and stuff.
Stacy Colino:Yeah.
Wendy Green:For dogs.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:So as we age, our dogs age, but they age more rapidly than we age, which is so hard when you, I mean they're a member of the family.
Wendy Green:Right.
Wendy Green:And so percent yeah, they are.
Wendy Green:And, and so what are some of the things that we need to think about if we are taking care of an older dog, a senior dog.
Stacy Colino:Well, you may need to adjust their diet with the help of your vet towards one that's like less processed and more anti inflammatory.
Stacy Colino:You may need to start them on supplements.
Stacy Colino:As I mentioned, Sadie is either 9 or 10.
Stacy Colino:We're not sure.
Stacy Colino:She, for a while she would look very stiff in the mornings, just like getting out of her bed and like her first few steps.
Stacy Colino:And we take her to a holistic vet who practices both eastern and western medicine.
Stacy Colino:And he recommended putting her on some joint supplements.
Stacy Colino:Nothing major.
Stacy Colino:It's a little capsule.
Stacy Colino:We break it open and sprinkle it on our food.
Stacy Colino:It doesn't bother a bit.
Stacy Colino:Twice a day.
Stacy Colino:And she has not looked stiff in a long time.
Wendy Green:Oh, isn't that great?
Stacy Colino:Yeah, it's really great.
Stacy Colino:But also think about like the kinds of, the kind of medical care you're going to want to give your dog and also sort of what you're willing to do as they get older.
Stacy Colino:One of the things that people kind of don't anticipate is as a dog gets older, some of your favorite activities that you did together may fall by the wayside.
Stacy Colino:You know, if you were really attached to going for long, beautiful walks with your dog and suddenly your dog has a hip issue, you might have to go for shorter walks.
Stacy Colino:If that was something that you did to bond or you played fetch in the backyard or played ball.
Stacy Colino:As they get older, they may not be able to do that as much.
Stacy Colino:So you need to find new rituals.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:And how hard it is when you have to make that decision, that they have outlived their quality of life.
Stacy Colino:Yes.
Stacy Colino:That's excruciating.
Wendy Green:Excruciating.
Wendy Green:Stacy and I just recently, I didn't even know about this.
Wendy Green:Just recently heard that a vet will come to your home to administer that end of life care.
Stacy Colino:We did that with Sadie's predecessor, Inky.
Stacy Colino:He developed a hemangiosarcoma, which is a very aggressive cancer in his abdomen.
Stacy Colino:And he was basically bleeding internally.
Wendy Green:Gosh.
Stacy Colino:And there was just no way to save him.
Stacy Colino:And so he got this diagnosis at like midnight on a Saturday night at the.
Stacy Colino:An emergency vet.
Stacy Colino:And they kept him overnight and they recommended humane euthanasia.
Stacy Colino:And I said I want to bring him home for that.
Stacy Colino:So we did.
Stacy Colino:And I found a vet who came and the whole family was here and he passed in our dining room.
Wendy Green:I had never heard of that before.
Wendy Green:I had always heard you had to take them to the vet, which always was so clinical.
Wendy Green:You know, they're laying out on that Metal table.
Wendy Green:And so there's a lot more humane treatment of dogs these days, and I'm glad to hear that.
Wendy Green:And training too.
Wendy Green:You told me that you don't always have to take your dog to a training class, that you can have a trainer come and work with you and your dog.
Wendy Green:And how does that work?
Stacy Colino:So part of that kind of training is to train you as well as the dog because you need to know the right instructions, the right prompts and cues to give your dog to get your dog to do what you want them to do.
Stacy Colino:So different trainers, you use different techniques.
Stacy Colino:Some use like a clicker, which I have never really fully understood, to prompt a dog to do a certain thing.
Stacy Colino:Others use food reward systems.
Stacy Colino:But the thing that is now universally agreed upon is that punitive practices are not good.
Stacy Colino:They do not do, they do not achieve what you want them to, and they have the potential to harm the bond between you and your dog.
Stacy Colino:So.
Stacy Colino:But there's a lot you can learn online through training videos as a starting point.
Stacy Colino:And then also, most vets will recommend a trainer in your area who will work with you and your dog.
Stacy Colino:And in my neighborhood, I see a couple of the same people who come around in the same types of cars and they have yellow shirts and sometimes they train a dog one on one with the owner and sometimes they take a group of dogs out on walks and teach them how to behave with each other on a group walk.
Wendy Green:Now, you didn't talk about this in your book.
Wendy Green:I don't remember saying it anyway.
Wendy Green:But a lot of people I know these days are crating their dogs when they go out for several hours.
Wendy Green:We never did that.
Wendy Green:So I'm curious about that.
Wendy Green:Why people, their dogs?
Stacy Colino:We did that early on until our dogs sort of knew the rules of good behavior when we're out.
Stacy Colino:Because some of our previous dogs did destroy things, chew things up out of anxiety, not because they were trying to be bad.
Stacy Colino:And so I think crating is a good, can be a good training tool.
Stacy Colino:But I think ideally, I mean, in my opinion, if you've got a well behaved dog, you don't need to do that all the time.
Wendy Green:And there are things you can do for anxiety like those thunder vests and.
Stacy Colino:Rescue remedies, homeopathic remedies.
Stacy Colino:My previous dog, Inky, was just a basket case when it was time for fireworks and thunder and you name it.
Stacy Colino:And we found something called a rescue remedy, which is a homeopathic thing that we could put right in his water or just drop in his mouth.
Stacy Colino:And it Would help him kind of mellow out just a little bit.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Stacy Colino:Their dogs on Prozac and they're.
Wendy Green:Is that right?
Wendy Green:Yeah, yeah, I've heard of that.
Wendy Green:Rescue remedy.
Wendy Green:And see, Amy talks about a pet sitter.
Stacy Colino:Yep.
Wendy Green:I think pet sitters as opposed to a kenneling a dog.
Wendy Green:Right.
Wendy Green:They're much happier if they're at home, aren't they?
Stacy Colino:Well, they are, but the other thing is we send Sadie out to the country to a.
Stacy Colino:It's not a kennel.
Stacy Colino:We call it the dog camp.
Stacy Colino:And you have to.
Stacy Colino:You basically have to have an audition to make sure you're a well behaved dog that can get really other dogs.
Stacy Colino:And the dogs are free.
Stacy Colino:They are outside playing all day long and if it's rainy, they have like kind of a big all purpose room where they can play.
Stacy Colino:And so it's a really social time for her, which is great.
Stacy Colino:She gets much more social time there than she does in her regular life.
Stacy Colino:And so that's good.
Stacy Colino:She comes back exhausted and horse because she's been barking so much, but she has a good time there.
Wendy Green:It sounds like doggy camp.
Wendy Green:That's fun.
Wendy Green:Yeah, yeah.
Wendy Green:So do you have.
Wendy Green:Let me just mention the name of your book again.
Wendy Green:It's called the Purest Bond and it is understanding the human canine connection.
Wendy Green:And it.
Stacy Colino:Would you like me to show the COVID of it?
Wendy Green:You could, sure.
Wendy Green:It is based on science and emotion.
Wendy Green:A lot of good stories in there.
Wendy Green:So if you are a dog lover or considering getting a dog, I think it's a good read.
Wendy Green:But I'm wondering if you have two or three takeaways that you would like to leave with the group about, particularly the, you know, having a dog as a.
Wendy Green:As a person over 60.
Stacy Colino:Well, I think it can be a very meaningful relationship.
Stacy Colino:One of the things that was really interesting to me is how people characterize their relationship with their dogs.
Stacy Colino:Some people see it as sort of like a parent child dynamic.
Stacy Colino:Other people see it as like a trusted companion kind of relationship.
Stacy Colino:I mean, they're all these different qualities and you can kind of have your own mashup to some extent and it can evolve over time.
Stacy Colino:And one of the greatest things about dogs is they're so incredibly loyal and loving.
Stacy Colino:And if you have a strong bond with your dog and you have a well behaved dog.
Stacy Colino:I saw somebody earlier say we take care of them and we.
Stacy Colino:And they take care of us.
Stacy Colino:And that ends up being so true on so many levels.
Stacy Colino:It's just a beautiful thing.
Stacy Colino:And there are things you can learn from your dog, too, about how to be in the world and how to enjoy things, how to be mindful and be in the here and now.
Stacy Colino:And I think those are all useful reminders.
Wendy Green:I love that.
Wendy Green:I, I loved that comment.
Wendy Green:We take care of them, they take care of us.
Wendy Green:And I think you're right.
Wendy Green:You know, if we could see the world through the eyes of a dog.
Wendy Green:Yeah, they see it.
Wendy Green:Most well loved dogs see it with so much joy and gratitude.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Stacy Colino:You really do.
Wendy Green:Yeah.
Wendy Green:Thank you, Stacy, for what you shared for us today.
Wendy Green:As Stacy said, I'm going to share some links in the show notes.
Wendy Green:We talk.
Wendy Green:She talked about the American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals that has some good articles on pet care.
Wendy Green:And the American Kennel Club also offers great info about different breeds and expert advice on dog training, nutrition, and other aspects of dog care.
Wendy Green:And then she gave me the name of somebody named Mark beck.
Wendy Green:He's a PhD and they interviewed him for the book and he writes a blog on animal emotions for Psychology Today.
Wendy Green:So all of those will be in the show notes.
Wendy Green:I will also drop them into Facebook and LinkedIn for those of you watching from there.
Wendy Green:And next month, we're going to talk about challenging ageism and our perception of aging.
Wendy Green:So on November 4, we're welcoming back Jeanette Liardi.
Wendy Green:Jeanette is a social gerontologist, community educator, writer, aging wellness leader, and the author of a new book titled Aging Sideways, Changing Our Perception on Getting Older.
Wendy Green:So be sure to tune in for that.
Wendy Green:And I and I think that's going to be an interesting conversation for sure.
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Wendy Green:Stacy, thank you so much for all that you shared today and your, your sweet personality and your love of your dogs.
Stacy Colino:Well, thank you for having me, Wendy.
Stacy Colino:This was fun and it's one of my favorite subjects.
Stacy Colino:So enjoy.
Wendy Green:We'll give Sadie our love.
Stacy Colino:I will, Will.
Wendy Green:Okay, bye.